4 Ways to Navigate Through Yucky Marriage Stuff

Oh, the stuff of marriage we find ourselves trudging through.  The yucky, messy, don’t wanna stuff

But it’s either sink or swim.  Tread water or go under.

Good thing we reach shore for a while and all is paradise, right? (wink) 

Do you think God knew the struggles we would go through with our hubsters?  Yep.  He did.  He even spoke about it in Genesis 3.

To the woman He said…”your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”

Rule over her?  What?!  Do I sense some yucky marriage stuff brewing right then and there?

But God…

In His infinite wisdom and Divine Sovereignty, He made a way to navigate through anything!

He gave us the most capable Captain…His Holy Spirit.  And He gave us the most comprehensive Navigation Guide on the planet.

The Bible tells us exactly what to do with the yucky marriage stuff. And it isn’t what our stubborn selves would rather do.

“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up, does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 
(1Corinthians 13:4-7)

Will you read that again?

What a beautiful, detailed compass for us to follow as we navigate through the high tides of marriage.

Navigation isn’t always easy.  We may feel like the boat is going to capsize, but hang on.  Don’t let go of the helm. 

Here are 4 practical things we can do to keep the ship afloat… 

1.  Communicate Well…

Our husbands cannot read our minds, nor will they try.  🙂

As much as we want them to already know what we want, it ain’t gonna happen.

Choose the right time and way to say things.
It’s not so much what we say…it’s how we say it.

2.  Try to see things from his perspective…


So often we jump to conclusions, or want desperately to be right. 

How about stopping for a minute to try and think like he does?  

Not easy, but it just may turn the rudder in the opposite direction and turmoil will be avoided.

3.  Be Quick to Forgive…


Holding on to a grudge is the fastest way to run aground.  

No one wants to be reminded of how they failed, and that’s what holding on to things does.  

Chances are, when we are full of grace and willing to move on, our guys will breathe a sigh of relief and there will be peace.

4.  Don’t Give Up…

Right in the middle of the yucky stuff…the stuff that is about to pull you under, raise your hands to heaven and call on the One who saves!  

God will always throw you the rope and pull you to safety.  No matter how bad it is, you can get through it. 

Trust in the Lord for He is good and His love endures forever. 


Get the help you need when you need it.  
Call on another trusted couple.  
Get into some Bible-based counseling.  
Work it out!


Be blessed in your marriage today, as you look forward to calm waters and peaceful sunsets.  You can navigate through the yucky marriage stuff.  You already are!

~Jennifer
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