How Negativity Nearly Ruined My Life

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Negative Nelly

Critical Cathy

Pessimistic Patty


At least that’s how I used to be. Critical of everyone and everything, often grumpy, and my-oh-my…as discontent as a doggy in a sweater.bulldog-238514_640

Negativity nearly ruined my life. How?

> It impaired my vision

> It hardened my heart

> It consumed my mind

> It wore me out

I often felt like I was looking through the wrong prescription glasses. Things weren’t clear. I strained to see the good and struggled to find the blessings.crystal-261334_640

My heart became calloused. Compassion took a back seat because I didn’t allow myself to truly sympathize with others. heart-371266_640

Having a negative spirit wore me out. It took a toll on my body, mind, and soul. And at the end of the day, I was mad at myself. Disgusted that I’d let negativity win…again.

Dear ones, negativity can ruin your life. At the very least, it can steal the joy right out from under you. If you wonder why each day seems like a drudgery or why you find it hard to smile, perhaps negativity has gotten the best of you.

There are those who say that thinking positively will cause all negativity to fly out the window. However, I find that it is nearly impossible to think positively enough to banish the gloom. I don’t think that’s the answer. Here’s what has worked for me.

> I get a head-to-toe physical every year. I’ve found a trusted medical doctor and actually follow her advice.

> I meet with older, wiser, women who give honest Biblical counsel. I take to heart what they say.

> I ask God to take negativity out of my life. I thank Him for everything.

> I count my blessings daily and read many books on what it meant to be grateful.

> I try to look at the good in every situation. (and I mean EVERY situation)

It isn’t about positive thinking. It’s about a ‘renewed’ mind.

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. (Romans 12:2)

Negativity almost ruined my life.

I still remember the night when I was standing in the kitchen laughing with the kids. My husband walked up the stairs with the strangest look on his face.

I said, “What is it?”

He replied, “It’s good to hear you laughing.”

That’s how bad my attitude had been.

Negativity steals laughter. It hurts others. And it is completely unnecessary. Let me repeat that.

It is completely unnecessary.

Please don’t let negativity ruin your life or push away those you love. Because it will. The next time you feel that wave of pessimism, give one (or all) of these ideas a try.

> Think of 3 things you are truly thankful for. Thank God for them. If you can’t think of 3 blessings, you may need to take some serious time to re-evaluate things and prioritize your life.

> Restart. If the day begins with a lot of negativity, simply make the decision to restart. In the Name of Jesus, begin again.

> Do something nice for someone. Buy a bouquet of flowers. Rake their leaves. Just get your focus off yourself.

I hope you know the only reason I am sounding bossy is because I sure needed someone to order me around when negativity clung to me like that doggy sweater.

Are you also known as Negative Nelly? Or as some say, Negative Nancy?

Just stop…OK? It’s a decision. It’s an effort. And you can do it. I believe there is a better you. A more positive you. One who counts her blessings, thanks God, and smiles a lot…

One who doesn’t let negativity ruin her life.






2 Responses

  1. Shirley Nettles
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    Thank you for letting God our Father use you too ministers to me, I will ask the Holy Spirit to help me see the good in everything.

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