How to Know When Anger’s Gotten the Best of You

For those of us who have a tendency toward anger, it may be difficult to detect when it has gotten the best of us.

I, too, didn’t realize anger was such an issue for me until I heard Batman telling Spiderman that I was an angry person. (no lie!)

My oldest son was 3 at the time, and I overheard him saying, “She’s mean, she’s mad…my mom is mean and mad.”

When I peeked around the corner, I saw him holding his action figures and having them say that to each other!

I was heartbroken.  And the truth is, he was right.

Benjamin Franklin once said, 
Anger is never without a reason, but seldom with a good one.


The reasons I’ve had for anger are usually… 

Wanting to be heard 
Wanting to be right
And just plain old BAD HABIT

But in most cases, it’s unnecessary.  It really is.

When we look at the ministry of Jesus, while He walked this earth, seldom did He show anger.  And when He did, it was fully justified.

With sinful anger, the ‘mean and mad’ kind, there is no justification.

Anger hurts.  It causes those around us to walk on egg shells….to avoid the pressure cooker ready to blow.  

It can be passed on, handed down, learned and adopted.  It can provoke our children to harbor bitterness. And it can destroy relationships.

My son is almost twenty-three now, and the action figures are long gone.(at least I think they are) 🙂

I apologized for my anger, but I also made the decision to change. 

If I hadn’t, I don’t think we would have the relationship we have today.

Anger is a decision.  And when Batman tells Spiderman we are angry, we’d better listen.

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