The Exact Steps I Take to Overcome Disappointment



I cannot even begin

to count the times I’ve been sorely disappointed in life.

We all have.

We get our hopes up and believe things are finally going to be different.

We say to ourselves, “I’m going to make lemonade from the lemons!”

Then, the big “D” hits.


And we wonder if we ought to give up. Back away. Go back to bed and pull the covers up to our chins.

Dear one, let me encourage you today. I have a few ideas to help you overcome disappointment. These are the exact steps I take every single time. And you know what? They work.

But before you read them, let me be upfront. These steps won’t prevent disappointment from happening. They won’t remove the “sting” altogether. They will simply help you work through it without turning to chocolate or something far worse.

So, say a quick prayer and dive into the exact steps I take to overcome the big “D.”

Step One:

I allow myself to feel the full brunt of the disappointment, which might mean I need to go and cry for a bit. But I don’t wallow. I don’t let the tide of negativity permeate my thoughts.

In fact, in the very beginning stages of disappointment, I always, always, always, THANK GOD for it.

What?! (you ask)

No matter how I feel, no matter what I am thinking, I thank God for it. Because He knows. He knows exactly what is going on. Nothing escapes His Sovereignty.

And, listen, by thanking Him first and foremost, the edge is taken off of the pain of disappointment.

Step Two:

After crying and thanking God, I listen. I listen for the conviction of wrongdoing on my part.

Where did I mess up? In whom did I place too much trust? Is there any way I set myself up for the disappointment?

Again, I don’t wallow in self-pity or condemnation. I just look the situation square in the face and take responsibility for my part in it.

Step Three:

I move forward.

This may mean going back to the drawing board and waiting for the Lord to show me the direction I should go. This may mean doing some hard things such as confronting someone, speaking the truth in love, or making difficult decisions. Whatever needs to be done, I try to be obedient in it.

If I don’t know what to do to move forward, I go back to what I KNOW I am called to do and do that with all my heart.


“I look the situation square in the face and take any responsibility for my part in it.”


Listen, I know overcoming disappointment is more than 3 steps. In fact, each of our disappointments varies in severity. I will never claim to know exactly what you are going through. However, I believe that by the grace of God and His help, I have learned how to deal with disappointment and overcome it many, many times.

Lost jobs, missed opportunities, rejection, and unexpected change have come at the most inopportune times, haven’t they?

However, the exact steps I take in overcoming disappointment just might get you through the next one. And the next, and the next.


Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!


Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand.


Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.


Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you.” (Philippians 4:4-9 NKJV)


How do you deal with disappointments in life? Send me an email and let me know!

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